Raise them the same.

Impossible!
As our little girls start to grow we try to raise them the same. Try to ensure we are consistent from one child to the next. But I have come to realize that this is impossible! When we "Duck" she was it, there was two of us and one of her. We had more time and more energy to devote to her. We made sure she was independent we taught her how to do things on her own. And well let me tell you she is independent. From when she was a baby we actually had to teach her how to cuddle. She never liked to be swaddled, she wanted as much space as possible. My wife would sneak into her room in the middle of the night, pick her up and rock her. Over time she started to cuddle, and well now can be a bit of a cuddle bug. Then came "Bee", and from the moment she came out she wanted to be held close wanted to know we were there. She is affectionate and very conscious of those around her. She isn't quite as brave but will try anything her sister does. "Bee" has us and "Duck", we have learned from our first and now balance two kids.  So I know there is no way to raise one exactly the same as the other but still looking at the little difference I ponder. I go over everything that happened in the operating room when we had the C-section, were the little differences the start of the girls unique qualities?  I think about the differences in day care, about bed time routines, so many variables. Is it all our actions that guides them or were they just naturally different? I really think its a balance of both. I look at these girls running around and know there will always be differences, we will always try to be fair but there will always be differences. Would we really want two children exactly the same, no.. never, the little differences are what makes them unique. The end goal is to raise strong, confident individuals who are respectful, hard working and loving! Girl or boy these are qualities I think we should all strive for. I guess I may over think things but these girls are my world, and I want to know I have done everything I can to give them opportunity to succeed.