The voices are raised, "Duck" is upset, "Bee" is laughing, they run after each other. I try to step in, but before I can "Duck" winds up and shoves "Bee" to the floor. "Bee" is now screaming with anger and frustration, "Duck" is still yelling with frustration because "Bee" had her toy. Tension is thick, I want to scream right along with them... I stop and try a different approach, I kneel down beside them, let "Bee" know she is okay and then start talking to "Duck". I ask her if she would want someone to push her down, she shakes her head. Then I go into an explanation, learning myself as the words come out of me.
Family is about picking each other up, not knocking each other down. No matter how frustrated we are we should always be there to support our family, help them when they are weak, help them when they need us and give them space when they need it. I don't believe the statement that blood is thicker then water (well other then the literal sense) these bonds are built over time. If we learn to love our siblings, pick them up instead of knock them down from a young age, learn to hold them with love, understand them better then anyone else, then this will be the strongest bond we will ever have. No matter bother, sister, cousin or friend, love is learned over time.
"Duck" looked at me, there was a hint of understanding, I knew that this was fairly heavy for a child, but I will be repeating the over and over again, in many different words over the next 20 years. As a parent I am learning as much as my children. We make our mistakes and we have our victories, but consistency of love and understanding will build strong adults. Everyday is a new lesson for the whole family, and as we build ourselves over time I know we will be strong. "Duck" helped pick "Bee" up gave her a hug and the headed off to play. A small victory among crazy days.
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